fair : the worst f-word


to this day, society still clutches its pearls over the other f-word. the one with four letters that makes people gasp in public. your friendly neighborhood grim would like to suggest a far more dangerous word  

fair 

fair is the real curse word. it’s the one that quietly ruins relationships, lives, and entire bloodlines while everyone nods along like it’s some kind of sacred truth

fair is just a word. what matters is the meaning we attach to it. and that meaning is almost always transactional. subjective. drenched in perspective and timing. what felt “fair” to the settlers with their beads and blankets looks like theft to the people whose ancestors actually owned the land. what feels fair to the person who got the promotion feels like betrayal to the one who worked twice as hard and still got passed over

we teach children to “play fair.” we tell them the world will be fair if you just follow the rules. then mother nature walks in and cuts down a forty-something mother of two walking across the street to work, or takes a child from their parent’s arms, and suddenly the lie is exposed. life is not fair. it never was. it never will be 

the same people who preach fairness also love to say “everything happens for a reason.” go sit with a father who just buried his son and tell him that. watch his face. those who have spent time in the wood-chipper know better. fairness is not part of the deal

so the real question is never “is this fair?”

the real question is: what are you going to do about it?

are you going to cheat, lie, and steal your way through because “everyone else is doing it”? are you going to step on or step over anyone and justify it with “tough, life isn’t fair”? are you going to twist yourself into whatever shape gets you the biggest slice of the pie?

or are you going to do the harder thing?

are you going to stay aligned even when the world is crooked? are you going to keep your word when no one is watching? are you going to value the time you have left and refuse to complain about the fairness you expected or thought you deserved?

the codex was never built to make life fair


it was forged to help you stand straight in a world that isn’t 

fairness is an illusion sold by people who benefit from your belief in it

the codex is the reminder that you don’t need the world to be fair 
you only need to be true

choose